Friday, December 18, 2009


I don't understand people sometimes.
My What Not to Say to a Birthmom post has really upset some people.

I don't know what it is.
maybe it's hard for them to accept that complaining about being a mother is offensive/hard for some people to hear?

I don't know,
but I just want to clear something up.

5. Don't complain about being a mother
I'm sure this goes for adoptive parents too. I know that when the time is right for me to have my own kids, I will be so eternally grateful that I can be their mother. I will cherish every moment with them. So don't complain to me about how hard motherhood is. It's harder to give birth to your child and then willingly relinquish your rights as a mother. Until you have done that, don't complain.
This number has really upset a few people.
I want to say right now that I did not make that post to cause angry feelings.
I made that post to help others understand what is hard for birthmothers to hear.

I can't emphasize enough that hearing someone complain about being a mother is hard to hear. It's simple enough.  I'm not saying that it's horrible to complain about it because I know it is not an easy job.  I never ever said it was.

I'm saying I don't like to hear it.
So don't complain to me.
It's as simple as that.

I just wanted to make that clear.
The last comment I received about that issue has really offended me.

I feel like this person really misinterpreted what I'm saying.
It upsets me that people can't understand how that would be hard to hear.
But apparantly I have offended them.
So, I wanted to clear it up.

If they still don't understand,
then they don't have to read my blog...or talk to birthmothers.

1 comment:

Nate and Calixta said...

I don't know you, but I admire you so much and just think your amazing!! I just want to tell you I don't think what you said about complaining about being a mother was harsh at all! It took me a while to get pregnant and when people would complain about being a mother I would get VERY upset! Now that I am a mother I know that sometimes it can be hard but there is never a reason to complain about it. Some people just don't always count there blessings!
I love your blog and you and I don't even know you but your amazing :)