tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.comments2023-09-02T05:47:39.373-06:00Andee LeighAndeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17864157962985816889noreply@blogger.comBlogger1312125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-38678442157360922502013-01-13T02:47:22.373-07:002013-01-13T02:47:22.373-07:00Andee you are so, so sweet. Do you know what I fe...Andee you are so, so sweet. Do you know what I feel guilty about? Being jealous when someone else is pregnant. It's been a while since I felt that way and I have learned to cope with my own emotions and be thrilled for people when they are pregnant. But there was a time when I couldn't just be happy for someone else, and I feel guilty about that time. Don't feel guilty about your amazing family! You are such an inspiration to me, how strong and wonderful you are, and I'm so happy for you that you are adding to your family! P.S., we are hoping to adopt!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07730894440216168742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-12526709787827304262013-01-02T22:16:09.381-07:002013-01-02T22:16:09.381-07:00we have tried to have a child for almost six years...we have tried to have a child for almost six years and have been approved to adopt for one year and are still waiting. <br /><br />but not once do we ever get upset when good, amazing people are pregnant. just like mrs r said, every day on facebook someone announces they are pregnant. <br /><br />do NOT feel ashamed. be just as grateful as you are. post a way! because if we were ever to get pregnant {don't think we will and we are totally fine with it now} or when we have a baby placed with us, we will announce our joy and blessing as well. <br /><br />don't ever hide it. how very sweet of you to be concerned. embrace it. post about it. be happy. there is nothing wrong with it whatsoever. this is the family you dreamed about and you have every right to post your happiness. <br /><br />congratulations!! can't wait to know what you are having! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-41322939327089331922012-11-11T22:11:48.888-07:002012-11-11T22:11:48.888-07:00I've never commented before, but I enjoy your ...I've never commented before, but I enjoy your blog, and was so touched by this post. It is truly admirable that you are so concerned about the feelings of others.<br /><br />As someone who struggles with infertility, I have to say that I would never begrudge someone the happiness that comes from such wonderful news. Is it always easy to hear pregnancy announcements? If I am answering honestly, there is usually a twinge of wistfulness. It may hurt a little because I would LOVE to be able to have that experience someday. But I am always happy for someone that receives the blessing of a sweet little addition to the family. I would never want them to feel guilty for experiencing that joy. It is a joyous time! <br /><br />I LOVED what Lindsey had to say and echo her sentiments wholeheartedly. We pray for and dream of the day our son's birthmom has her own little family. I can think of no greater news. <br /><br />You are a sweetheart. Congratulations on your sweet little blessing! Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02999802705013967764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-67596159537945732032012-11-05T12:12:56.231-07:002012-11-05T12:12:56.231-07:00Hey Andee,
I know we don't have a ton of int...Hey Andee, <br /> I know we don't have a ton of interaction with each other, but I know what you are feeling. I felt the same way when we found out we were having a baby within the first month of being married! I poured my heart out to Amy and Dave (the couple I placed my little boy with) and told them exactly what you said in your post... they told me that sensitivity to others' feelings is great, but not at the expense of feeling inadequate. This baby is a blessing, and Heavenly Father knows EXACTLY what He is doing. Your friends who struggle with infertility (just as mine) who know you, will be happy for you. Don't let guilt and shame cloud your excitement... those are tools Satan uses to make us feel inadequate as parents, almost like we have no right to build a family. Does any of that make sense? Your thoughtfulness shows true compassion and love toward those who struggle with infertility. That is noble. How beautiful that you care for people so much! <br /><br />The only suggestion I received (because I pried it out of some friends who struggle with infertility), was please don't complain about your pregnancy in a way that makes it sound like a curse. "Heartburn is killing me!" or "Baby keeps me up all night kicking!" are totally fine... but (you know the people who do this) saying things like "I wish I wasn't pregnant" or "I hate my body" are the ones that might make a stab. <br /><br />You are beautiful, and so is your family. I am so happy for you! Sterling Bohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12867789978566730202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-6677758752845986702012-11-04T11:32:21.765-07:002012-11-04T11:32:21.765-07:00Congrats Andee! We are so happy for you, this is s...Congrats Andee! We are so happy for you, this is so exciting! <br /><br />Please don't stress. Everyone handles things differently, and I think many infertility survivors appreciate hearing when the blessing of pregnancy is not taken for granted. My only advice is when you need to complain about pregnancy (because you will and that's normal and you shouldn't feel guilty about it) complain to friends who don't have infertility as part of their life. But that's it. Celebrate your pregnancy! In public and in private, pregnancy is such a wonderful miracle. <br /><br />Seriously this is such beautiful news!Lechellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06269950945901115240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-4362700359738500262012-11-04T08:18:01.048-07:002012-11-04T08:18:01.048-07:00Sweet, Andee!
CONGRATS!
As an infertility surviv...Sweet, Andee!<br /><br />CONGRATS!<br /><br />As an infertility survivor, I rarely think twice when people announce their pregnancies. It happens every single day on Facebook. Don't worry about it!<br /><br />As an adoptive mom, I have to say that our biggest hope and dream for our kids' birth parents and the birth moms we love (like you!!) is that you will have the family you have always dreamed of in the time frame and circumstances you have always dreamed of.<br /><br />At least in our home, your announcement was joyful news!<br /><br />Hugs to you and your tender heart. <br /><br />XOXOLindsey from The R Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16487077462904179112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-29207500401275153222012-11-03T23:49:17.701-06:002012-11-03T23:49:17.701-06:00So here's my outlook on it, coming from an inf...So here's my outlook on it, coming from an infertile's view. <br /><br />One, you are a freakin' amazing person for even having an inkling of compassion and sensitivity towards those who suffer from infertility. And you are 100% completely deserving of the wonderful blessings you receive! Not one person you know (or don't know), no matter how awesome they are, deserves this blessing (of this baby) more then you. So get that out of your head right now.<br /><br />Two, it doesn't matter how delicately you phrase things, someone will always be hurt or offended. This does NOT have anything to do with you, but everything to do with the person getting hurt or taking offense. I'm not saying they are wrong or are able to avoid getting hurt, it's just that each person goes through different stages during their infertility and healing. Some stages we are more apt to being hurt then others. Yet in other stages those kind of comments don't even register on our radar. It's a continuous, never ending cycle we have learn and grow through. But a muscle doesn't grow stronger by sitting useless and unexposed to hard labor. It grows strong by being exposed and getting a work out. We (infertiles) NEED to be exposed to hard (for us) comments and situations to be able to transcend the pain. <br /><br />So don't feel badly about saying you had a tough, hormonal day. Don't avoid posting tummy pics because I can't. Just live your life, give us inferts a shout out every now and then to validate our pain, and let us worry about the rest. Love you!!!Danyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13737740754021599451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-87211914582540435332012-11-03T23:35:58.433-06:002012-11-03T23:35:58.433-06:00Andee~ congratulations!!! i am so excited for you ...Andee~ congratulations!!! i am so excited for you and this new member of your family!!! i just felt like i needed to respond... i am infertile and it has definitely not been easy. as part of coping with my infertility, i have found my own way to cope with pregnancy announcement, ventings, craving fb post/blogs. and i think every person dealing with infertility needs to find their coping mechanisms on their own. while, unfortunately, you get the butt end of their coping... they really are excited for you. something else i wanted to say is... when my younger sis. was pregnant, apparently she was scared to announce it to me. what she didn't know, understand is that i had come to find my own coping mechanisms. on top of, in someways it hurt to think she was scared to share this exciting change coming into our family, with me!! i will admit, there was a time or two during her pregnancy i struggled... but that was something i needed to face/deal with... not my sis. so i guess point of my novel here (sorry about that) is 1) realize it isn't rubbing it in, your friends/family members that are infertile are just trying to find their own coping mechanisms for their trial in life... 2) please don't be afraid to share your terrific news because in someways it hurts more when you try hide it. best of luck! hope this helpsDevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511556140897155971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-44936882905195593252012-11-03T23:24:02.845-06:002012-11-03T23:24:02.845-06:00this may be the second time you see this.. idk wha...this may be the second time you see this.. idk what happened with my first comment.. if it worked or not.. andee this post just shows how great of a person you are.. you are always considerate to others. you should not feel guilty. you are so selfless..you helped a couple in need by placing the blessing of an angel in their arms. no one could ever think that you were gloating about your pregnancy. i love you. and you are such an amazing person. Elicia Launihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04572441724162762320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-17541110567618040662012-11-03T23:22:06.936-06:002012-11-03T23:22:06.936-06:00Yes you're hormonal ;)
I don't think peop...Yes you're hormonal ;)<br /><br />I don't think people who struggle with infertility would expect you to hold back your excitement. During the 2 years I was waiting and hoping to get pregnant, yes, I would get jealous of people who got pregnant and had what I wanted. But I was also excited and happy for them. No one would (or should) expect anyone to hold back their excitement or pretend to not be happy just because of their own disappointments and I really doubt that anyone does. BreeAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02538915032517580083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-44128142832689213232012-11-03T23:19:59.726-06:002012-11-03T23:19:59.726-06:00all i can say is .. this just shows how great of a...all i can say is .. this just shows how great of a person you are.. and how considerate you are to others. you are the most caring person ever. Andee.. i wouldn't feel guilty. you have also done a very selfless thing by helping a couple in need by blessing them with a little angel. no one could ever think you were gloating about your pregnancy. Elicia Launihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04572441724162762320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-45839671533681121252012-10-03T11:21:12.953-06:002012-10-03T11:21:12.953-06:00Glad to read something from you. Its been a while!...Glad to read something from you. Its been a while!Alessi Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13545762421927333310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-70572756048806029152012-09-29T12:36:04.226-06:002012-09-29T12:36:04.226-06:00Beautifully shared!
http://nineyearpregnancy.wordp...Beautifully shared!<br />http://nineyearpregnancy.wordpress.com/2012/09/29/what-do-you-do-when-you-cant-hang-on/<br />Blessings,<br />DelanaDelanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00816403324689120556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-53382874548421505822012-05-17T14:23:27.987-06:002012-05-17T14:23:27.987-06:00Hi I just got done reading your blog. I am glad I ...Hi I just got done reading your blog. I am glad I read it. It really helped to read it knowing im not the only who went threw this. It kinda helped me to heal so thank you.sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01512182015993898185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-6209949955374954342012-05-02T17:31:28.675-06:002012-05-02T17:31:28.675-06:00I found you via the Birthmothers for Adoption blog...I found you via the Birthmothers for Adoption blog...I am a birthmom as well. Thanks for sharing :)Shonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16070761023571513811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-32663203591619574992012-04-27T10:15:38.608-06:002012-04-27T10:15:38.608-06:00Andee, I have recently come across your blog and a...Andee, I have recently come across your blog and am now a blog stalker. You sound so much like me. Our experiences are so similar. I'm so grateful to have found you. When I found out I was pregnant my "best friend" said, "my mom got pregnant with me before she was married, are you saying she should have given me away?" It's been almost 13 yrs since I placed my Addy, but those words still hurt.Jaclynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041901026714053237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-86894033958663883172012-04-23T12:42:16.670-06:002012-04-23T12:42:16.670-06:00I love your blogging Andee!I love your blogging Andee!Jessica Nejatifarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14171792860000556520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-6734144027375223952011-12-19T07:38:22.330-07:002011-12-19T07:38:22.330-07:00Such a moving post!
www.rebeccabany.comSuch a moving post! <br />www.rebeccabany.comMemoirs of Me & Minehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14366737473619508232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-54381637476978648152011-12-19T07:36:49.740-07:002011-12-19T07:36:49.740-07:00You have a beautiful blog. I'm happy I came a...You have a beautiful blog. I'm happy I came across it.<br />www.rebeccabany.comMemoirs of Me & Minehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14366737473619508232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-64764874934088691352011-12-04T16:08:51.793-07:002011-12-04T16:08:51.793-07:00Beautiful post! Avery has blessed us all in so man...Beautiful post! Avery has blessed us all in so many ways. What a sweet little spirit.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04438298821898985799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-59073950273306618952011-11-30T11:38:49.689-07:002011-11-30T11:38:49.689-07:00Andee...I just wanted to tell you how much it mean...Andee...I just wanted to tell you how much it meant to me to meet you on Tuesday at Olympus High School. To meet you now that I have my baby was like coming full circle. I remember those days I would sit at the computer and read peoples blog that would get me through those bad days. I appreciate those that are brave enough to share there feelings with the world and especially for the adoption community. I think you are so amazing and brave and wish there were more young girls just like you!Brittney & Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09537376650046133665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-20378419533874592162011-11-28T15:29:32.383-07:002011-11-28T15:29:32.383-07:00Love this.Love this.Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-64483917576724098982011-11-25T18:36:32.791-07:002011-11-25T18:36:32.791-07:00I'm being conceited and I would like to believ...I'm being conceited and I would like to believe that I'm in this incredible friend ;)Red Hothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02051624814633872612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-70101007296207979252011-11-21T09:10:56.496-07:002011-11-21T09:10:56.496-07:00Thanks for answering my question about the music. ...Thanks for answering my question about the music. There is a Hilary Weeks song the other day called Beautiful Heartbreak and while I don't think it is adoption specific, that's all I could think about.Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517787157158545798.post-40924626137188950092011-11-17T23:52:08.561-07:002011-11-17T23:52:08.561-07:00Can you recommend some music? I am aware of Michae...Can you recommend some music? I am aware of Michael McLean, but nothing else.Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.com