April 15th was the 3 year anniversary of when I met Dustin and Andrea!
That is so crazy to me. I can't believe it's been 3 years.
Andrea texted me on Friday (April 15th)
and just said that she pretty much can't believe it's been three years and we just talked about how grateful we were for meeting each other.
Then she said "Avery told me today that she is so happy"
She just randomly said that?
Coincedence? I don't think so.
I placed Avery for adoption because I wanted that for her.
I WANTED her to be happy and have every oppertunity in life possible.
That comment she made, makes me SO happy I can't even tell you.
She IS happy.
I feel like I WAS able to make her happy just like I wanted her to be.
It made me a little emotional when Andrea said that.
not that I didn't KNOW if Avery was happy or not, because TRUST me I knew that before. She is one of the happiest little girls I know.
But hearing that, means she RECOGNIZES it.
I absolutely love it.
While I was texting her I was driving in the car with Tyson.
I have been feeling so blessed lately.
Dustin and Andrea are so good to me. They have been amazing with helping me get through this.
I feel almost guilty for how good I feel about all of this and that's what I was telling Tyson.
I know quite a few birthmoms and I talk to a lot of them quite a bit.
and I feel like I am one of the VERY few that aren't...suffering anymore.
I think that's a good word for it.
I seriously don't even think of Avery as mine anymore.
Sometimes I even forget that I actually gave birth to her.
Everytime I see Her, Dustin and Andrea, it's apparant that they have always belonged together.
They fit together SO well.
Avery never was mine. She has always been theirs and I don't think of her as mine anymore.
I love her SO much and of course that will never change.
But I feel like I'm more content with this decision than a lot of other birthmoms that placed around the same time as I did are.
I know that eventually,
this point comes for most, if not all, birthmoms.
But I just feel almost heartless for feeling so content with this so early.
I told Tyson that I felt like there was something wrong with me.
He thought that was ridiculous. haha
He said that he thinks that it has a lot to do with my personality.
He said that because I'm so OCD about things; Like..I have to be organized,
I planned, even before Avery was born how this was all going to play out.
Since it all went just as I planned, I am content with it.
It went the way I wanted it to and Avery is just as happy as I always imagined her to be and she is with her family.
I understand that now a little.
Maybe it's because I knew how I wanted it to be before she was even born.
So I prepared for it earlier than most and since it turned out like I wanted it to turn out,
I'm just fine.
of COURSE, I still have days were I miss her,
but I don't feel even CLOSE to how I felt the first year.
I don't have the Mother-Daughter connection with her anymore.
it's a different connection and one that not very many people get to have.
But I'm just SO grateful for Dustin and Andrea.
THEY play a huge part in why I'm so content with everything.
They were so supportive, and helpful through the hard times I had after she was born,
that I was able to get through it so well and so quickly.
If they had tried to push me out of their lives in the first year because I was seeing her so much,
I am SURE I wouldn't feel the way I do now.
Instead, they were SO patient with me while I was slowly able to break that connection and move it to something better and healthier. My heart is filled with so much gratitude for them and this experience.
I couldn't have BEEN more blessed through all of this.
I love them and I love adoption!!